Holland mature wants a man

In my married life, I simply worked way too much. The only thing that mattered to me was my work. Very stupid, of course, because my husband left because I neglected it. And he was absolutely right. Unfortunately, he didn't want to try anymore, but I've learned my lesson. I'm looking for a new man, and I promise I'll give you all my free time.

The ground has been pulled out from under me; my husband has given me an ultimatum. If I don't lose 30 kilos, he's going to file for divorce. The funny thing is, he's quite overweight himself, weighing 135 kilos. I'm not forcing him to lose weight; I don't know what to do now. Should I lose weight for him, or should I stay true to myself? That's the question I still don't know the answer to.

It's really time for me to look for something new. My life isn't exactly spectacular, and neither is my marriage. Why sit in a corner and mourn what happened? I'd rather take the bull by the horns and find the thrill myself. The thrill I want is hot sex in a car somewhere.

My ex was an alcoholic, and I really don't want that ever again. I just want to find a nice guy to spend my retirement with. Older or younger doesn't matter to me.