Old granny wants a young guy

The ground has been pulled out from under me; my husband has given me an ultimatum. If I don't lose 30 kilos, he's going to file for divorce. The funny thing is, he's quite overweight himself, weighing 135 kilos. I'm not forcing him to lose weight; I don't know what to do now. Should I lose weight for him, or should I stay true to myself? That's the question I still don't know the answer to.

I'll be completely honest: I'm a headstrong person with strong opinions. The other me is sweet, kind, and above all, a people-pleaser. Here's a little glimpse into my life; you can discover the rest for yourself.

I can't tell you why it always goes wrong for me. I just don't have any luck with men. I do have a boyfriend now, but I can say it's on the decline.

No one knows my big secret: I've been good friends with a married man for years. He always held me accountable; I was far too gullible. I've learned from this; I won't make that mistake again. I definitely want to find a man, but he needs to be someone who puts me first; I won't settle for anything less.